I was at a birthday party recently with my son and while speaking to one of the other Mums, she said to me that she always says Happy Birthday to the Mums too as the day is also a celebration for them too.
And I thought, bloody yes!! I’d never thought of it that way as birthdays for me these days are all about the child and the party and the friends… but now, as a Mum myself, I can see how it is a celebration each year of that Mum having performed a miracle.
So next time any of your children has a birthday, cut yourself an extra large slice of cake and wish yourself a happy anniversary birthing-day because a little of this day is for you too.
For that day is the day you became a Mum.
The day you gave yourself completely without fear (well maybe a little bit!) and without reservation to deliver a miracle and make everyone else’s lives that little bit better (well a lot better actually!)
The day your life changed, maybe for the first time, maybe the second or third. Each time is pretty amazing.
The day you first discovered you could love harder and more deeply than you ever thought possible. Or the day you discovered you could love like that again, just as much, and have enough love for the new one and any that came before them.
It’s the day you discovered you are stronger than you knew, and braver than you think.
The day your body performed an astonishing act that it had been working hard for nine months to prepare for. It was all you and no-one else.
The day your priorities and outlook on life changed.
The day you made your husband or partner a parent too. Your own parents Grandparents. Your brothers and sisters Uncles and Aunties. Your other children siblings. You changed so many lives and gave them new focus and meaning.
On this day you added another person. Someone who will go on to live and love. Who will (hopefully!) achieve great things, be successful, spread happiness, discover, innovate, inspire, explore.
For some Mums it is a hard day that may end in heartache, fear or sorrow. These days, and these Mums, matter too, whatever the outcome.
The day you gave birth to your child is the day you changed the world.
And that my friends is the best excuse I’ve ever heard for having a large slice of cake and an ever bigger glass of wine.
I applaud you all, with love xxxx